Honeymoon

When love is in the air

Honeymoon, a word which just knows one language “Love”.

A couple on their honeymoon just know and care for one emotion Love, love and more love.

Advaith and Shivanshi are two people who are soon going to tie the knot and just like any newly married couple too dream of their honeymoon.

Now, unknown to them they are going to break the age old stereotype honeymoon and bring a new trend of the 21st century.

Ladies! Welcome to another blog of mine. I am sure that just reading the title many of you might have started procrastinating about your honeymoon.

So friends, those who are yet to go down the forever sweet memories lane stop and see if you want to be a part of the latest trend or do it the traditional way.

For couples, who’ve already been there well, read on and relive those once in a lifetime memories all over.

We will also talk about how the sterotype honeymoon is updating itself.

Let’s witness what different did Advaith and Shivanshi do that puts them in the league of the modern honeymooners.

Well, friends I have curated the topics we shall be discussing about in our blog for this week. Let’s embark on re kindling those romantic moments or make some.

Topics that we shall explore are mentioned below like always:

1. What is Honeymoon?

Under this heading we shall also see

A. Why couples go on a honeymoon

B. Perfect time to sail on the moments of love

We will be learning about a new term “WeddingMoon”

2. Why some couples aren’t able to go on a honeymoon right after their wedding.

Ideally, here we’ll see what one can do if you are in this category.

3. This will cover ” Post Millennium Honeymoon”. In addition we will be discussing about: 

1. Checklist of things to take care of before honeymoon and
2. Things one should absolutely Avoid

4. Ideal honeymoon duration

5. Honeymoon blues and ways to handle it

6. Things all couples face post honeymoon &

7. Getting back into the real world post honeymoon.

Let’s begin with our first blog topic

What is Honeymoon

A honeymoon is a getaway or holiday that newlyweds take right after their wedding. This helps them to create memories and unwind after their wedding.

WHY OPT FOR A HONEYMOON

Weddings today are a mean feat and which can drain the bride and groom both, physically and mentally.

Honeymoons here comes a boon for newly weds as it offers respite right after the wedding along with other incentives like 

i. Helping a couple unwind before work life hits them.

ii. It also allows them to understand each other better. 

iii. Make love to your heart’s content: I think I need to say much here so I will let those imaginations run wild.

iv. Since you will be spending all your waking moments together it will bring a sense of togetherness 

v. A honeymoon helps in creating cherishable memories that brings a smile on your face when thought about.

So, then when to go on a voyage of love

Now, there isn’t any ideal time. Some prefer to leave immediately after their wedding while, some prefer to wait. 

Priorities differ from individuals. Similarly, the criterion of honeymoon. Thus, I would say that if you aren’t under constrain it is alright if you leave after your wedding and if under constrain you can decide a suitable time to sail.

Moving on let us learn a new term here.

Hope you all remember Advaith and Shivanshi, our newly wed couple?. Well, they are going to play a very pivotal role here. 

So, let’s read about it.

Advaith and Shivanshi met each other over a business meet when the heads of the respective companies thought of a merger.

Thus, it was obvious that in such a situation they would need to postpone their honeymoon.

This merger was something that was the hot topic in their respective work places.

However, their wedding had been fixed and that couldn’t be put off for a later date.

Advaith and Shivanshi spoke about this in details and came to a conclusion that was ideal in their situation.

What was the solution they came up is something which we will be reading about.

Here, comes a new term

WeddingMoon

When wedding and honeymoon is combined as one, ie; the wedding taking place in the chosen destination for a honeymoon.

This is what Shivanshi and Advaith did. They opted for a Weddingmoon which served both purpose that of getting married and getting the honeymoon feel too.

Why did they opt for a Weddingmoon 

A weddingmoon is a cheap alternative adopted to save oneself from the cost of a lavish wedding and then blowing up more money on honeymoon. 

This served two purposes here: 

1. Helped them from sinking further into a financial drain and
2. The couple could have a wedding like they had planned. 

Yes, Advaith did feel sad on not being able to take Shivanshi for a honeymoon but, Shivanshi suggested a way out which went down well with Advaith.

What was suggested by Shivanshi is something which is what will be revealed next.

So, moving on to our next topic

Not being able to go on a honeymoon soon after the wedding.

Welcome to the 21st century where delayed honeymoons are becoming a norm. 

Modernization is the key here which believes in breaking free from the regular and doing things with a twist.

Shivanshi and Advaith had to take care of their professional duties which was a priority for them.

Their companies were to be merged and being in an influential positions they couldn’t afford the luxury of a honeymoon.

Since, time was of essence here, they had opted for a Weddingmoon.

Now, let us see some factors responsible for couples not being able to go on a honeymoon right after the wedding.

Factors responsible 

1. Prior commitments: Differs from person to person. For some it can be a project or a meeting that coincides with  honeymoon. 

In this case, honeymoon is the last thing on mind.

2. Financial Aspects:  A wedding sets one back by millions and many end up spending their entire savings.

In this case then don’t you think it is only wise to earn money first, save some and once you can afford to spend go on your dream honeymoon.

3. Wanting to settle down:  Marriage changes the life of not only women but, men too. Thus, couples first want to get accustomed to their new lives to take that holiday later.

4. Being able to go on an exotic post wedding vacation.

The above mentioned points are amongst a few reasons. 

I know it is disheartening on not being able to go for your honeymoon but, every cloud has a silver lining so smile my friends.

Remember Shivanshi had suggested a way out to her husband. Well dearies, it is now time to reveal the secret.

They have completed two weeks of togetherness. Advaith is in the line of being promoted and is very happy.

He wanted to surprise Shivanshi and was contemplating about the gift when he suddenly remembered his wife’s suggestion. 

Luckily the following week was a long holiday and which meant they could utilize it by creating romantic moments.

Yes, they would soon be going on their Minimoon.

MiniMoon

A small post marriage vacation which couples opt for when they cannot go for a honeymoon soon after their wedding.

Its importance 

1. Helps in spending romantic times together
2. Easy on the pocket as one need not go too far off or to an exotic location.

You can opt to go to a neighbouring town or a hill station that is pocket friendly.

3. Since you are closer to home the travelling time too is less and you save both time and energy to get cozy.

4. Travel Light: Simplicity is the key.

Being close to home yet far, taking just the basic necessities is sufficient.

Now, let us see how long should a minimoon be

A minimoon is usually taken for three to four days. This saves the emotional trip of not being able to go on your honeymoon and also from the guilt trip of neglecting official duties.

So, don’t fret. You can opt for mini moons as an excuse till it is Bon Voyage.

Moving on, let us be witnesses to yet another trend in vogue. 

 

Post Millennium Honeymoon

Niharika and Rudra are a happy married couple but, due to some unforeseen circumstances or let us say the conditions weren’t favourable then couldn’t go on their post nuptial holiday.

Now, they did go for a getaway once in a while dreaming about their honeymoon.

They got a chance one year later and thus, decided to ring in their first marriage anniversary by going on their post marriage holiday. 

This is what Post Millennium honeymoon is all about. 

Simply put, when you go for a couple getaway one year into your marriage or even later is called ” Post Millennium Honeymoon”. 

In order to be stress and tension free when on your awaited holiday keep the mentioned checklist in mind.

1. Plan your honeymoon well in advance

Apply for a leave( incase needed) stating the exact reason with the duration 

2. Be free from all official and personal responsibilities 

3. Work upon a budget so you have some savings left in your account. Do Not spend all your savings for a honeymoon.

4. Apply for a Visa well in advance. 

5. Keep all your documents updated

6. Purchase a travel insurance which will come in handy in case of any emergency.

7. Book the hotel by taking a virtual tour. See if it is worth your investment.

A good way to be sure is to check the reviews and the stars given by tourists.

8. Keep one day as a buffer before you resume work.

Example: If you are to join on Monday, be sure to return early morning Sunday. This way you have the whole day to relax and plan the entire work week.

It will also, help you in overcoming honeymoon blues.

Let us see the next sub topic

Red Flags to be avoided

1. Do not leave anything to the last minute. Be well organized 

2. Be completely free from all social and personal responsibilities

   This means no official calls or mails.

3. Switch off from the world.

    Avoid being available on the phone and feeding your contacts with details.

4. Mute all social media accounts. 

You do not want to waste time in frivolous activities. Trust me, if you do you will regret later.

5. Avoid the blame game if things go wrong.

Now, this is a possibility for things always don’t go as planned. This would lead to arguments and you would end up fighting.

As a couple, life will give you ample time to fight over petty issues too. So, why spoil your honeymoon.

6. Let the camera be your enemy. Keep it away. Stop being a camera baby.

Now let us see how long should an ideal honeymoon be.

                   Honeymoon Duration

Time is your greatest enemy here. Believe me, it will seem as if time has grown wings. 

You will want to stop it but, it will tease you.

Coming to the point how long should a honeymoon be let me tell you that this depends on your situation and priorities.

If you aren’t pressed for time two weeks is ideal else a week at the most.

Before, moving on to the next topic I just want to say no time is ideal when on your honeymoon. This is the time to make memories. So, forget the world and its worries. 

Just concentrate on spending time together and enjoy each other’s company. 

Honeymoon comes once in a lifetime.

Now, let us move on to our next topic.

Honeymoon Blues

Yes, honeymoon blues. You might wonder if a vacation like honeymoon comes with this stigma.

My friends, imagine or relive your wedding holiday from the comfort of your home.

Now, time for a reality check for the holidays are over and it is time to face the real world.

A world filled with responsibilities, stress, et all while, on the other hand you have your sweet memories.

This feeling of remorse when one feels sad, lonely or stressed out is simply an emotion called Honeymoon Blues. 

Yes, my friends; it is as real as life. 

But, you aren’t alone for majority face a similar situation. However, coming out from this feeling of helplessness and remorse is in your hands. 

So, let us see how we can overcome the blues

Overcoming Vacation Blues

1. Change your routine: 

Settle on a regime that suits both. A routine which allows you to bond together.

This can be in the mornings, over dinner or right before going to sleep.

2. Keep a buffer:

Do Not join work immediately. Keep a day or two in hand. Get used to your new life and plan each day accordingly.

3. Take up a hobby:

A hobby not only proves beneficial in keeping you busy but, doing things that you love has  the power to heal you faster and relax your mind at the same time.

4. Prioritize each other:

Get to know each other. Do small chores around the house together. Know each others likes and dislikes, interests, nature. In short, whatever personality traits a couple should know about the other.

5. Do not mix work and family time:

When at home, spend time with each other. Let your colleagues know that now things have changed. You have to get accustomed to a new life and a new way of living. 

Do not answer any official phone calls or emails.

These can be taken care of the next day at work

Above are just a few points. You can either work around them or create your own heaven.

Moving on to the next topic

What newly wed couples go through

Expect life to be a roller coaster of emotions for a few days or maybe months.

1. Expect life to be a roller coaster of emotions for a few days or maybe months.

2. Returning back to real life can be harsh.

Solution: Any form of exercise that helps you feel relaxed. This can be swimming, a sport that you like, medidation or yoga. 

Start doing it again. 

3. Blame Game:

Hop on the bandwagon. Fights between couples is an ugly part to marriage. 

Yes, egos will clash & opinions will differ.

You might blame the other too. These are all part of the later stage of a marriage.

4. Adjustment Issues:

Before marriage, you are used to living life on your own terms. Be it returning home late, spending the later parts of the weekends sleeping, partying late, indulging in shopping and spending time with your gang.

You aren’t a bachelorette and adjustment is the name of the game.

Habits just like people don’t change overnight. 

But, we have to make conscious efforts to change some habits that might create problems for us.

5. The five H questions that people love to ask

• How do you feel now that you’re married?
• How’s married life?
• How’s your husband?
• How was your honeymoon?
• How about kids? 

These are some of the factors couples face

So, we are almost at the end of the blog with just one point left.

Getting back on track post marriage vacation

1. Communicate

2. Patience should be your virtue.

3. Find your own happiness

4. Build your nest together

5. Take a break from your mundane world

6. Be honest with each other

7. Take up an activity that can be enjoyed by both

8. Take time to settle in your new life

9. Learn to adjust & 

10.  Keep in mind that it’s not always necessary to win every argument or fight. 

Winning isn’t important but, your relation is.

This brings us to the end of this blog.

Your humble friend will be back next week with another blog and a new topic.

Cheers to new beginnings and writing a new chapter each day